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Hi I'm Jake!!
12-15-2013, 08:51 PM
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Music Hi I'm Jake!!
Hey I'm Jake, I'm 21 and I have been trying to grow out my hair for the first time. I didn't even know I had curly hair until I started to let it grow. I used to always have a very short buzz haircut so this is a major change and it's very difficult because I have lots of stress and anxiety which makes me pull out my hair a lot. It seems almost impossible to grow out my hair because it's very thin and frail and breaks off. I can't tell if I'm balding or just getting a really bad receding hairline. I'll post some pictures of my hair how it is now if I can. All advice and encouragement would be nice.
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12-16-2013, 10:10 AM
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RE: Hi I'm Jake!!
Hey Jake, welcome on board!

I see you have an underlying issue from your description. Some people, when they have anxiety or stress, start pulling their hair compulsively, and this leads to trichotillomania which is the habit of pulling your hair and it can get very bad to stage where you are missing hair in parts of the scalp or eyebrows.

We can help you out with the hair and getting more confidence, but it would be a good idea to see a mental health specialist who can help you with the anxiety bit. We can only give you styling opinions and some bro chat but the health issue is always under the supervision of a medical practitioner Smile

If you have curly hair then browse around our Curly Hair section dedicated specially to men with curly hair. I don't know if you have heard of Rogelio from the website Manly Curls. We got him here browsing the forums and helping curly people out! We also have other hair specialists so browse around and don't think of this as an instant solution, think of it as progress and we can help you with the progress Cool

Also make sure you read the The Curly Hair Book (by Rogelio), it's on Amazon and deals with managing curly hair and also empowering yourself to become a better man (with curly hair!). It's a must read, I highly recommend it as Rogelio has dealt with many curly guys wanting help. If you are interested, you can buy the book here (Amazon).

Welcome again, and be yourself here my friend Smile

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12-17-2013, 10:53 PM
Post: #3
RE: Hi I'm Jake!!
(12-16-2013 10:10 AM)TheMensHairForum Wrote:  Hey Jake, welcome on board!

I see you have an underlying issue from your description. Some people, when they have anxiety or stress, start pulling their hair compulsively, and this leads to trichotillomania which is the habit of pulling your hair and it can get very bad to stage where you are missing hair in parts of the scalp or eyebrows.

We can help you out with the hair and getting more confidence, but it would be a good idea to see a mental health specialist who can help you with the anxiety bit. We can only give you styling opinions and some bro chat but the health issue is always under the supervision of a medical practitioner Smile

If you have curly hair then browse around our Curly Hair section dedicated specially to men with curly hair. I don't know if you have heard of Rogelio from the website Manly Curls. We got him here browsing the forums and helping curly people out! We also have other hair specialists so browse around and don't think of this as an instant solution, think of it as progress and we can help you with the progress Cool

Also make sure you read the The Curly Hair Book (by Rogelio), it's on Amazon and deals with managing curly hair and also empowering yourself to become a better man (with curly hair!). It's a must read, I highly recommend it as Rogelio has dealt with many curly guys wanting help. If you are interested, you can buy the book here (Amazon).

Welcome again, and be yourself here my friend Smile

Thanks for the welcome, I will look into do and I've been thinking about seeing someone for my anxiety, but even seeing someone is hard because of my anxiety :/ I really am a mess mentally and I have a sad past and not being able to save someone is devastating for life. Also on a side note I have colored my hair with copper and blonde highlights and the tips and mid part of my hair has become so thin and dry it doesn't brush right and feels so bad.
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12-18-2013, 10:37 AM
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RE: Hi I'm Jake!!
hey Jake welcome! Smile
We will help you out, it is easy to say "cheer up" so I will not say it. I can only share what TMHF said and say i'm happy youre getting the help you need for anxiety Smile
Hopefully this community can bring you some happiness and help you a bit! there is many of us coming from all backgrounds so i am sure you will feel at home here plus we cover all kinds of hair so you can really look to improve your looks (if thats what you want) with a beard style, moustache style, male grooming etc
When you dye curly hair it becomes like straw so that is why you are finding a difficult time with your curly hair. Usually it is better to work 1st on the hair care and hair growth for curly hair and then look for a hairstyle and even different coloring. Hair also grows fast so dont worry about having to get a haircut if that is what you need.
We also have many guys here thinking they are thinning or going bald when usually once they tell us the real situation and pictures it is just that their hair care is so bad that their hair comes fragile and looks thinner. You need to look at stuff like nutrition, supplements, what you eat to really get the best hair possible so the suggestion of The Curly Hair Book from TMHF is good as the book covers nutrition and supplements too for better curly hair. If you were to buy any hair product, you would only need right now that book - plus get a haircut to start growing your curly hair again and in 4 months you can have lots of good length.
You have come to the right place Wink so welcome again!
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12-19-2013, 01:00 AM
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RE: Hi I'm Jake!!
(12-18-2013 10:37 AM)Jurgen Wrote:  hey Jake welcome! Smile
We will help you out, it is easy to say "cheer up" so I will not say it. I can only share what TMHF said and say i'm happy youre getting the help you need for anxiety Smile
Hopefully this community can bring you some happiness and help you a bit! there is many of us coming from all backgrounds so i am sure you will feel at home here plus we cover all kinds of hair so you can really look to improve your looks (if thats what you want) with a beard style, moustache style, male grooming etc
When you dye curly hair it becomes like straw so that is why you are finding a difficult time with your curly hair. Usually it is better to work 1st on the hair care and hair growth for curly hair and then look for a hairstyle and even different coloring. Hair also grows fast so dont worry about having to get a haircut if that is what you need.
We also have many guys here thinking they are thinning or going bald when usually once they tell us the real situation and pictures it is just that their hair care is so bad that their hair comes fragile and looks thinner. You need to look at stuff like nutrition, supplements, what you eat to really get the best hair possible so the suggestion of The Curly Hair Book from TMHF is good as the book covers nutrition and supplements too for better curly hair. If you were to buy any hair product, you would only need right now that book - plus get a haircut to start growing your curly hair again and in 4 months you can have lots of good length.
You have come to the right place Wink so welcome again!

Thank you for the support, I really appreciate it. I guess I have many questions and one of them is since I have had my hair dyed/highlighted it's been growing long in the front (only the bang) why I say bang is because the way he cut my hair was to style it like Adam Lambert's with the very short sides and the long top. So he tapered it so just the hair on top of my head narrows down to one point and it goes to my nose. But the problem is since he cut the sides so short it doesn't blend with the rest of my hair and it's growing back very thin and frail. The worst part is since he dyed like layers in my hair all the hair surrounding has become so frail and it doesn't have much movement. So should I get a little trim and keep letting it grow? Or should I buy a recolor dye and get my regular hair color back? I want to let my hair grow and I've been distressed about not gaining length with my extra slow hair growth. Although I know it's important to get a trim to let the new hair grow. My barber said my hair is thin but healthy, ever since he dyed it though I feel my hair is dead and not healthy. I don't know what to do, I want the length so bad because I want to have it long enough to style it and straighten it to look scene. I'd really appreciate it if you respond to this again :3
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